Now that I have your attention…
Valentines Day.
Do you do it? You’re not alone if you whisper no. We don’t much anymore either. After 20 VDs you build up an immunity.

Why should corporations tell you when to show love? Do it everyday. In little ways. It doesn’t need to cost money. You could just spend a little time…

A heap of love. A pinch of joy. A dash of tenderness. A spoonful of affection. Small measures of kindness…

simple gestures can melt hearts…

Patch things up where you can.

I once heard a lovely little lady, a veteran of many many years of marriage, say in a radio interview the secret was to

Just keep loving. 

Suggesting long-term love, like happiness is a choice. A decision.
I’m certainly no expert on the subject. What do you think?

Dale Carnegie, author of the most popular work of non-fiction of our time [according to my 1961 edition]  How To Win Friends And Influence People [first published in 1937 and Wikipedia says, has sold over 15 million copies world-wide] claims love disappears in little ways, nagging, berating, a lack of courtesy given to strangers no longer used at home, inattention etc that kills it slowly.

’tis not love’s going that hurts my days,
But that it went it little ways.
Edna St. Vincent Millay

Here’s Mr Carnegie’s
Seven Rules For Making Your Home Life Happier
This section from the original book was cut from the 1981 revised [more PC] edition.

1. Don’t nag.
2. Don’t try to make your partner over.
3. Don’t criticize.
4. Give honest appreciation.
5. Pay little attentions.
6. Be courteous.
7. Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.

xo